Currently, I am …
Working full time.
Doing the single parent thing.
Keeping up with three kids’ schedules.
Dealing with strong emotions.
It’s a lot to accomplish and I have had to prioritize my time and energy, so standards have been lowered on several fronts.
Do you remember how I used to plan my menus five weeks out so we had home cooked meals six nights a week?
That’s not happening anymore.
Generally it’s just Hayden, Faith and me here for dinner so I have gotten more relaxed about what we eat. There are a lot more thrown together meals, more take out and fewer home made desserts. Also, since the kids are packing their own lunches now I am relying heavily on packaged fruit and cheez-its and cookies.
You know what?
It’s ok. No one is starving. No one is really complaining and once volleyball season is through I hope to regroup a bit and get back on track. Family meal time is important no matter what the family looks like. And things haven’t totally gone to pot. The other day I was standing, with Faith, at the grocery store in front of the Hamburger Helper display contemplating whether or not I’ve sunk that low yet.
Similarly, I’ve become more relaxed about chores. I’ve never been a stellar house cleaner but I’ve had to let go even more. All of the chores are getting done, but with much less yelling on my part. The kids are pitching in with fewer complaints and in turn, I’m turning a blind eye to less than perfect results. As long as the kitchen and the guest bathroom are clean, we get by.
Right now what is important is all of us getting enough rest and being there for each other as much as we can. Whether or not we do that in a freshly vacuumed house is not important. We can have good conversation over store bought chicken fingers just as well as we can over home made ones.
But if anyone is wondering what to get as a gift for someone in my situation, I highly recommend a house cleaning service!
During times of stress, what’s the first thing to go in your house?